I wish so very much that I had the knowledge that I have now, a few years ago. I used to be a very angry person, filled with hate. Now I’m still angry and hateful sometimes (I wouldn’t be human if I didn’t get angry every now and again!) but I can channel that energy into something more productive and healthy.
- Exercise. Every time I have beaten a personal best on the cross trainer, or exercise bike or even a walk, has been when I’ve felt particularly angry. I shove my headphones in, turn up the music and just go. I’m a huge fan of throwing some mad shapes to try and shake that anger out. I start off bitter and hateful, but pretty soon I’m hitting it so hard that my brain can’t concentrate on pushing my body and being angry at the same time. What can I say, I’m a simpleton!
- Write it down. Put pen to paper, or fingers to keyboard and let those hate fuelled words fill your page. Write a letter to the person you’re angry at (just don’t send it!), write a diary entry, write a blog. I normally direct my anger into a blog, save it in drafts and revisit when I’ve cooled down. If it’s any good, I tweak it with a fresh mind and post it. If it’s literally line after line of swearing, I’ll probably hit that delete button.
- Do something creative. I used to love drawing, I’m not any good at it, but I enjoyed it. I’d have a little sketch up and it’d calm me right down. Those drawings were culled in the great bedroom clear out of 2014, never to be seen again. But at the time, they helped.
- Seek company from an animal. Horses were a huge part of my life when I was younger so if I was feeling angry I’d just pop to the stables, pick up a dandy brush and groom my horse whilst ranting about all those things that horrible boy did. Dogs work just as well, in fact anything that can’t talk back is perfect.
- Watch a funny film. Laughter is contagious, it releases endorphins. 30 minutes into a decent comedy and my anger has dispersed. Just make sure you pick a film that’s guaranteed to make you laugh. This is definitely not a time to experiment with comedies!
- A nice hot shower. For some people its baths, for me it’s a shower. I spent many an evening standing under the hot water in my shower waiting for all the anger to metaphorically wash away down the drain. Sometimes it’d only take the time it took me to wash and condition my hair to start feeling happier, other times I’d still be standing there, red raw from the extremely hot water a good 20 -30 minutes waiting for the anger to go.
I find these the best ways in which to utilise that negative energy. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes the best medicine is shoving your face into a pillow and screaming to your hearts content, and I have definitely done this a good few times, but if I can I try to avoid it. Screaming only gives me a sore throat 😉