Lets get a few things clear, I am not a homewrecker. I am not a ‘bit on the side’. And I most certainly am not interested in unavailable men.
I am, however, interested in men, who flirt with me, look well presented, are funny and an all-around delight to be around. So Imagine my surprise when my gut was wrong about this guy.
He asked me if I would like to go for a drink with him on the following Sunday. He seemed really nice and he wasn’t unfortunate looking either! Lovely tanned skin, brown eyes and floppy brown hair, 6ft 4, both lean and built, with the most delicious Australian twang in his voice. Safe to say, I thought I had hit the jackpot! We went for a lunchtime drink, he paid, and sat outside in the beer garden for hours talking and laughing, it was really easy. He laughed at me being so ‘English’ for enjoying a cup of tea, or four, and I told him if he couldn’t make me a decent cup of tea, that was it!
As the afternoon drifted on, and evening approached, we’d covered a range of topics, including hobbies, family, holidays, food, he’d even offered to cook for me the following week. How positive was that? He wanted to see me again. I tried my best to stay cool, even though I was grinning like a loon on the inside!
The date came to a natural end, and he walked me to my car and kissed me on the cheek. It all seemed very above board! We exchanged a few texts over the next week, and tried to plan our next date, then I didn’t hear from him for a few days, so playing it cool, I left it, He would text me when he wanted to. Sure enough, the following day he text me but after a few messages back and forth, it became apparent that all was not above board. I think the biggest clue was the following text;
‘Sorry I can’t see you this week, I need to spend time with my girlfriend. xx’
What the actual heck. How did I not pick up on that? He hadn’t mentioned a girlfriend on our date, nor had he mentioned a significant other on any texts. Apparently one girlfriend isn’t enough, he needs to date other girls at the same time? Isn’t that something you either keep completely secret, so that none of the women involved find out, or something that you make abundantly clear so that all parties involved know you’re not into the whole monogamy thing? Either way, neither of those scenarios are for me, definitely not my cup of tea!
Suffice to say, I did not reply to that text, I deleted his number and tried to delete him from my memory. I have to admit, at the time I was angry. I beat myself up, thinking how could I be so stupid not to realise there was something wrong. But then, in a moment of clarity, it came to me, I was not in the wrong, I was oblivious to the fact that he was using me to potentially cheat on his girlfriend. He was the villain and I was the sweet innocent, albeit naïve, damsel who almost got caught up with the wrong person.
Never fear, my Prince Charming is out there somewhere, I reckon he’s fighting a dragon or something, it might take him a while to recover after that before he is able to find me!
Singe in South Essex